7 habits of highly successful Teens

Habit 7

Part 1

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

Teens should never get too busy living to take time to renew themselves. When teens “Sharpen the saw” they are keeping their personal self sharp so that they can be better deal with life. It means regularly renewing and strengthening the four key dimensions of life            -body, mind, heart, and soul

1.     Body. Eat wholesome foods, fruits, vegetables, legumes. Avoid illegal drugs, smoking, alcohol, tobacco products, tattooing. Excersize regularly and effectively. Get plenty of rest at night. Get to bed early at night and get up early each morning. :Early to bed early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy, and wise.”

2.     Mind. Think positively. Read. Study. Think. Analyze.  Seek to read a good book each month. Then each week. Ask intelligent questions. Observe. Develop your mind through positive “Self-Talk.”

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7 habits of highly successful teens

Habit 5

5. Seek first to understand and then to be Understood

Because most people don’t listen very well, one of the great frustrations in life is that many people don’t feel understood. This habit will ensure your teen learns the most important communication skill there is; active listening. Why is this habit key to communication? It’s because the deepest need of the human heart is to be understood. Everyone wants to be understood. Everyone wants to respected and valued for who they are-  a unique one-of-a-kind never-to-be-cloned individual. People won’t expose their soft middles unless they feel genuine love and understanding. Once they feel it however, they will tell you more than you may want to hear. People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care. Listen with your eyes, heart and ears. 7 percent of communication is contained in the words we use. The rest comes from body language (53 percent) and how we say words, or the tone and feeling reflected in our voice (40 percent). Most people are eager to talk and had rather talk than listen. We have one mouth and two ears. This means we should listen twice as much as we talk. Learn to listen and listen to learn. Listen, really listen for understanding. Seek first to understand then to be understood—listen.

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Habit 4

4. Think Win-Win

Teens can learn to foster the belief that it is possible to create an atmosphere of win – win every relationship. The habit encourages the idea that in any given discussion or situation both parties can arrive at a mutually beneficial solution. Your teens will learn to celebrate the accomplishments of others instead of being threatened by them. Win-Win is a belief that everyone can win. It’s both nice and tough all at once. I won’t step on you, but I won’t be your door mat either. You care about other people and you want them to succeed. But you also care about yourself, and you want to succeed as well. Win-Win is abundant. It is a belief that there’s plenty of success to go around. Its not either you or me. It’s both us. It’s not a matter of who gets the biggest piece of the pie. There’s more than enough food for everyone. It’s an all you can eat buffet.

       Win- Win always creates more. Perhaps the most surprising benefit of thinking Win-Win is the good feeling it brings on. The true test of whether or not you are thinking Win-Win or one of those alternatives is how you feel. Win-lose and Lose-win thinking will cloud your judgment and fill you with negative feelings.

       Win-Win will fill your heart with happy and serene thoughts. It will give you confidence. Even fill you with light. Think Win-Win or no deal.

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Habit 3

Habit 3: Put first things first

Habit three is about Will and will not power. This habit helps teens prioritize and manage their time so that they focus on and complete the most important things in their lives. Putting first things first also means learning to overcome fears and being strong during difficult times. Its living life according to what matters most. Putting first things first deals with things that are:

Important or not important, urgent or not urgent. Let’s look at the four quadrants of time management.

Quadrant 1: Things that are important and urgent

Quadrant 2: Things that are Important but not Urgent

Quadrant 3: Things that are not important but are urgent

Quadrant 4:  Things that are not important and not urgent

1. Important & Urgent	2. Important but Not Urgent
3. Not important but Urgent	4. Not important and Not Urgent

Quadrant 2 is the ideal place to spend our time, doing things that are important but not urgent. Here’s where priorities come into play. The results for living Quadrant 2 are:

1.    Control of your life

2.    Balance

3.    High Performance

So, what quadrant are you spending most of your time? The key is to shift as much time as possible into quadrant 2 and this is accomplished by planning. Spend more time planning and incorporating the most important things first, things that matter most. Keep your eyes on the price and reach for it.

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Habits 2

Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind

If teens aren’t clear about where they want to end up in life, about their values, goals and what they stand for, they will wander, waste time, and be tossed to and fro by the options of others. Help your teen create a personal mission statement which will act as a road map and direct and guide his decision- making process.

“Keep your eyes on the prize.” Determine your desired prize and don’t quit until you have realized the achievement of your prize. Then set another prize, another goal or another desire that you would really like to achieve. Begin with the achievement of your prize in mind. Visualize then realize. Start by having a target in mind; know where you are going.

One prize or goal you definitely need to establish for yourself is the prize of honorable graduation from high school- that you will receive your diploma honestly and with integrity – that you earned it with perfect honesty.

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7 habits of highly successful Teens Habit 1

(By Sean Covey but modified)

Habit 1: Be Proactive.

Being proactive is the key to unlocking the other habits. Help your teen take control and responsibility for her life. Proactive people understand that they are responsible for their own happiness or unhappiness. They don’t blame others for their own actions or feelings. Proactive people realize that the ball is in their court, that they are the captain for their own ship; that they are in control. Control of their decisions, thoughts, choices, decisions, actions, goals, and priorities. Proactive people are self-starters; they don’t wait to be told what to do, they press forward with enthusiasm toward the achievement of their assignment, their duties, their responsibilities, their obligations. Choosing to do what is right is a proactive decision. Obey the rules. Obey the law. Obey the coach. Obey the school policies. Obey your parents. Obey with exactness, and great things will come to you. Be proactive and take initiative.

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